Making Change That Lasts!
I believe in the law of attraction. It has taken me sometime to understand how it works but it is becoming clearer.
At first I thought the law of attraction was about what you are doing. If you keep really busy, it must pay off – whatever you are doing. But running round like a blue-@$$ed fly has not yielded the results I expected.
Next experiment, was to test the ‘you attract what you think about’ theory. It is clear that we do attract what we primarily think about however, there is an easy way to understand the principle. To me, it should be:
What you attract into your life is dependant on how you primarily feel about yourself!
It comes down to how you feel about yourself being the force which attracts experiences into your life.
This is so important in all areas of life. If I want to be an effective parent, partner, leader, coach, sales executive (in fact put anything into this spot), the better I feel about me, the more of what I want I will attract to myself.
We are literally magnets (those who paid attention in physical science classes will appreciate this more than others).
The irony is that this law is at work regardless of whether I am consciously aware of it or not. If I like myself, this is good news. If I don’t, it is a recipe for disappointments and disaster.
The Million Dollar Question – How do you feel about yourself today?
I was having a discussion with a good friend this morning. we have known each other for just short of 25 years now and historically, we both have had very strong opposing views on certain things. The discussion this morning was extremely rewarding as both of us, to some degree, have learned to let go of ‘our position’ and the net result was a discussion that was fulfilling and uplifting. In his words – ‘Once you let go (of an idea) it is cool!’
My business partner and friend Lars Lofstrand, likes the following quotation by Alvin Toffler:
“Learners will inherit the earth, while the learned will find themselves beautifully equipped to deal with a world that no longer exists. The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn.”
I am sharing this because I find the more I learn, the more I realise I do not know. It is unfortunate that giving a confident guess is considered more important than an honest – I don’t know.
I am becoming more and more confident with being honest when I don’t know something and the cool thing about it is that you learn so much more as a result!
Still Learning 🙂
My kids drive me nuts at times. They all (right down to Rogan who is 3 and a half) have the infuriating habit of not listening to no. And what is worse, most other kids there age seem to be exactly the same.
Why do I mention this. Theoretically, I go out and teach sales executives to carry on finding creative ways to ask for the order even when they are getting No’s – and I am definitely teaching something that my kids already understand.
Here is my take on it – we seem to be born with the skill of persistence – and then most of us forget it. It appears to me we just have to awaken the child within in order to be better at sales 🙂